Usually these blogs are so inspiring and pretty but not day, today I have to be real and let my current emotions just fly! The release may be good for me. Just letting it all out!
Dear Blog Readers {You)!
I’m begging you for help with a VERY personal matter! If you never come to my blog again or never post again that is okay…. but could you please at least post this one time. I’m coming to you today for REAL advice on a VERY sensitive issue that I have been dealing with all summer. An issue that I am dealing with every day at every moment and it’s been going on since the end of May. I am dealing with it right now.
As I’m writing to you, my blood is boiling. It is a very constant feeling. I am full of rage and resentment and anger because of a certain situation I was forced into. I hate that this is who I am right now, but because of this, I must warn you that the ugly side of me (not so proud of this side by the way) will be coming out in this post!
Like I said. I really, truly need your opinions/thoughts/suggestions/prayers with this matter. So, please continue reading and please post whatever comes to mind that you feel will help me!
My sister in law got pregnant by her abusive boyfriend last year. That is a story in itself. She is 24 years old but very immature for her age. She is a mess and no matter what anyone tells her, she always does the opposite of what she is supposed to do and then everyone has to pick up the pieces for her. She continues on this path because her family babies her. Her boyfriend kicked her out when their baby was 5 months old and my husband let her come stay with us. I was under the impression it would be for about 2 months! She moved in with us at the end of May. She is still with us. She doesn’t work. She has been collecting unemployment for a year now. She doesn’t have to pay rent and any money she gets, she blows, not saving a dime.
She is taking full advantage of living here and I literally feel like I am going to explode at any given moment. She is here 24/7. She never leaves our house. You would think if you’re going to force yourself in someone’s house and over stay your welcome, you would at least get out of the house during the day and let them have their personal space. She never leaves. She is either eating, sleeping or watching tv. She is very disrespectful with my things and has already ruined and broke many. She has taken over my house in all ways! I can't even tell you how many things she has done that just maks me cringe.
This is my house and I like things a certain way. I have been very nice to her, but I think too nice because she isn't getting the hint! I'm done being nice! It is only making everything worse!
I know I sound bitter. I am bitter!
I feel that she has over stayed her welcome. How long am I supposed to allow this? Trying to talk to my husband about this is like talking to a brick wall. He doesn’t give her any rules or boundaries. He just lets her do what she wants and so she does.
I have tried giving her hints that it’s time to start looking for a place and she doesn’t even acknowledge me. She does sometimes talk as though she’s going to look for a place to live or get a job, but it’s just talk.
My husband doesn’t prefer her here but he doesn’t want to be the big bad brother! Also, she looks up to him almost as if he was a God. It’s very weird. She depends on him a lot. She is very needy and can’t be alone so I think he is flattered by all of the attention!
I think it’s his place to talk to her BUT he won’t. So.. Do I? I was thinking about writing her a very real, honest letter! Something she needs to hear! She needs to get her life in order and stop intruding in ours!
I can’t live like this anymore! I’m going crazy. I know that this sounds harsh but I very upset and I don’t know how much longer I can take it!
Please help me!
